Unapologetic Fatty

Hey lovely fatties! I just wanted to show off my AMAZING prom get up! My senior prom was May 11th, 2013 and I have to admit, I was super nervous at first. I’m not one for big poofy dresses or prom style anything, but I’m so glad I went. I’ve been down on my luck lately and I’ve been feeling the effects of my depression. For those who don’t know I’ve been in recovery for Binge Eating Disorder and self harm since December. I was beginning to fall off track and my prom night was exactly what I needed to clear my mind. Not only did I look and feel babely, but when I got to prom I got HUNDREDS of compliments along the lines of “you look just like the little mermaid!” and “You’re one of the prettiest girls here!” And although I’m not one who likes to be noticed and be the center of attention, the fact that people KNEW I felt fabulous and how they expressed to me that I looked lovely and at ease with myself gave me a huge booster and it was just what I needed to continue my journey of self love. I’ve come a long way in my 4 years of high school and my graduation ceremony is Sunday May 19th and I think finding the self acceptance community has been the most positive thing to happen to my life and I’m glad I found it when I did, so thanks to this blog and many others I’m becomming the fat babe I know I am! U.S size 14/16 and lovely!! 

majestic even with spots 

i’m beautiful, whut whut

You are not welcome here.

You have never been welcome here. 

The people on this blog are not porn, and they are not yours to reblog.

You are sexualizing unwilling participants. Stop it. 

You are making my followers feel as if this blog is not a safe space any more. 

You’re attracted to fat women? Great for you buddy, go find yourself a porn blog. This isn’t it. There already exists plenty of ‘bbw’ porn, but not on this blog. 

I hereby banish you. 

I recently made a video on societys view on weight and the whole “fat does not equal ugly” concept that I think your followers would enjoy.

Mental health is part of health.

Many medications that treat mental illnesses have a side effect of weight gain. By shaming someone for being fat, you could effectively be shaming someone for taking necessary medication. You could be encouraging them to stop taking medication that they need in order to lose weight. If you are really so concerned about health, this should be alarming. 

You are saying that being thin is more important than being healthy. You are saying you would rather see someone suffering and thin, than be fat and stable. 

You don’t know why someone is fat, and it’s none of your business. The next time you are about to tell someone that their weight is unhealthy, I want you to stop and wonder why it’s any of your business in the first place. 

It is great to be complimented by others, but the greatest compliments will come from yourself. 

Spend lots of time with your body, seriously. Study yourself in the mirror, become familiar with the topography of your skin. Learn to appreciate your body beyond its aesthetic value. Praise your body for things other than our narrow definition of beauty. Thank your body for allowing you to swim, or eat yummy food, or sing, or hug people you care about. You are more valuable than your appearance. You are more than your body. 

Practice making lists of things you like. No negatives, only the things you like. Your list might be very small at first, only one thing. Day by day you will find new things to like. 

Treat your body like a friend. Remember that loving yourself is not a short or easy journey, and some days will be easier than others. Remember that everything you feel is valid and normal, and although there are people who FEEL like you, there is no one in the world who IS like you. You are unique in the universe and that is part of your beauty. 

Most of all, remember that beauty is a social construct and you owe beauty to no one. 

Hopefully some of this helps, if you ever wish to talk privately you can message me off anon, and anything you say stays between us. 

(Rebloggable by request)