Unapologetic Fatty

I’m a fan of being an unapologetic fatty.

Hey lovely fatties! I just wanted to show off my AMAZING prom get up! My senior prom was May 11th, 2013 and I have to admit, I was super nervous at first. I’m not one for big poofy dresses or prom style anything, but I’m so glad I went. I’ve been down on my luck lately and I’ve been feeling the effects of my depression. For those who don’t know I’ve been in recovery for Binge Eating Disorder and self harm since December. I was beginning to fall off track and my prom night was exactly what I needed to clear my mind. Not only did I look and feel babely, but when I got to prom I got HUNDREDS of compliments along the lines of “you look just like the little mermaid!” and “You’re one of the prettiest girls here!” And although I’m not one who likes to be noticed and be the center of attention, the fact that people KNEW I felt fabulous and how they expressed to me that I looked lovely and at ease with myself gave me a huge booster and it was just what I needed to continue my journey of self love. I’ve come a long way in my 4 years of high school and my graduation ceremony is Sunday May 19th and I think finding the self acceptance community has been the most positive thing to happen to my life and I’m glad I found it when I did, so thanks to this blog and many others I’m becomming the fat babe I know I am! U.S size 14/16 and lovely!! 

majestic even with spots 

i’m beautiful, whut whut

You are not welcome here.

You have never been welcome here. 

The people on this blog are not porn, and they are not yours to reblog.

You are sexualizing unwilling participants. Stop it. 

You are making my followers feel as if this blog is not a safe space any more. 

You’re attracted to fat women? Great for you buddy, go find yourself a porn blog. This isn’t it. There already exists plenty of ‘bbw’ porn, but not on this blog. 

I hereby banish you. 

I had a realization the other day. I was sitting in my vocal technique class and we were discussing how to overcome performance nerves. The overwhelming answer was confidence. “When you’re confident in your music and your talent, what everyone else thinks of you in that moment doesn’t occur to you,” our teacher confided in us. The class nodded in agreement and one girl in the back expanded on the topic. “But no one can give you confidence.” She spoke, bouncing in her seat. Another girl near the front asked her to explain. “Well, it doesn’t matter how many times someone tells you that you’re good at singing, because you won’t believe them. Confidence is something that you have to find in yourself because all of the ‘but you’re so talented’s in the world can’t make you feel any better about the way you sing. You have to look inside of yourself and know that what you do is good and love that about yourself before you can ever be confident in it.” How true is that of accepting your own body?

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I’d say that still applies to accepting your body, absolutely. 

Encouragement is GREAT! But your acceptance needs to come from within yourself. Others can inspire you, but they can’t create your confidence for you. 

Your worth, beauty , talent…is not dependent on others. No one can place a value on you besides yourself. 

I recently made a video on societys view on weight and the whole “fat does not equal ugly” concept that I think your followers would enjoy.

Mental health is part of health.

Many medications that treat mental illnesses have a side effect of weight gain. By shaming someone for being fat, you could effectively be shaming someone for taking necessary medication. You could be encouraging them to stop taking medication that they need in order to lose weight. If you are really so concerned about health, this should be alarming. 

You are saying that being thin is more important than being healthy. You are saying you would rather see someone suffering and thin, than be fat and stable. 

You don’t know why someone is fat, and it’s none of your business. The next time you are about to tell someone that their weight is unhealthy, I want you to stop and wonder why it’s any of your business in the first place.